Forgiving What You Can't Forget Quotes

“Hope is the melody of the future. Faith is dancing to that melody right now.”

“Bitterness isn’t usually found most deeply in those whose hearts are hard but rather in those who are most tender. It’s not that they are cold; it’s that they’ve been made to feel unsafe.”

“But weeping with them and rejoicing with them does not mean trying to take control of their out-of-control choices and behaviors. We can forgive them. But we cannot control them. And we should not enable them.”

“Forgiveness releases to the Lord your need for them to be punished or corrected, giving it to the only One who can do this with right measures of justice and mercy.”

“I am a soul who likes the concept of forgiveness . . . until I am a hurting soul who doesn’t.”

“I have held many things in my hands, and I have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in God’s hands, that I still possess.”

“It is necessary for you not to let pain rewrite your memories. And it’s absolutely necessary not to let pain ruin your future.”

“At some point we must stop: 1. Replaying what happened over and over. 2. Taking what was actually terrible in the past and tricking ourselves into thinking it was better than it was. 3. Imagining the ways things should be so much that we can’t acknowledge what is.”

“Relationships were reduced to attempts at managing what I feared about them rather than enjoying what I loved about them.”

“My ability to heal cannot be conditional on them wanting my forgiveness but only on my willingness to give it.”

“My ability to heal cannot depend on anyone’s choices but my own.”

“We can’t live in an alternate reality and expect what’s right in front of us to get better.”

“I only needed to bring my willingness to forgive, not the fullness of all my restored feelings.”

“Staying here, blaming them, and forever defining your life by what they did will only increase the pain. Worse, it will keep projecting out onto others. The more our pain consumes us, the more it will control us. And sadly, it’s those who least deserve to be hurt whom our unresolved pain will hurt the most.”

“Forgiveness is the weapon. Our choices moving forward are the battlefield. Moving on is the journey.”

“I forgive this person for how their actions back then are still impacting me now. And whatever my feelings don’t yet allow for, the blood of Jesus will surely cover.”

“As soon as sin was their choice, the cover of darkness was their preference.”

“You can’t fake yourself into being okay with what happened. But you can decide that the one who hurt you doesn’t get to decide what you do with your memories. Your life can be a graceful combination of beautiful and painful.”