How to Be a Girl in the World

Written by Caela Carter

Unwanted attention from boys and men leaves a twelve-year-old uncomfortable in her own skin.

4.3 Goodreads · 564 ratings

304 pages· 55,343 words· Est. 7.5 hour read· ~610L· AR 3.9 · 9 AR pts

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Bookroo's summary

Lydia hasn't felt comfortable in her own skin since boys at school began commenting on how she looks in her uniform. Her cousin and friends say she should be flattered, but the attention, including hugs from her mom's boyfriend that last a little too long, leaves her confused. As seventh grade begins, Lydia learns that her body is her own, and that she makes the rules about who can touch it.

From the publisher

From the critically acclaimed author of the ALA Notable and Charlotte Huck Honor Book Forever, or a Long, Long Time comes a poignant coming-of-age novel about the complicated parts of growing up, finding your voice, and claiming your space. Perfect for fans of Rebecca Stead, Laurel Snyder, or Ali Benjamin!Lydia hasn't felt comfortable in her own skin since the boys at her school started commenting on the way she looks in her uniform. Her cousin and friends think she should be flattered, but the boys--and sometimes her mom's boyfriend, Jeremy--make Lydia uncomfortable and confused. Even more confusing is when Jeremy hovers too close and hugs a little too long.Then her mom surprises her by buying a dilapidated house in their neighborhood. Lydia hopes to find a little bit of magic in their new home. But just like the adults in her life, and God, and her friends, the magic Lydia deeply believes in eventually loses its power to keep her safe.And as seventh grade begins, Lydia wonders: Is there a secret to figuring out how to be a girl in the world?An Empowering Story for Girls: Follow twelve-year-old Lydia as she learns that her body is her own, and she is the one who makes the rules about who can touch it.Bodily Autonomy and Consent: A nuanced exploration of the confusing gray areas of unwanted physical contact, from comments at school to a hug from a parent's boyfriend that lasts a little too long.Navigating Friendships and Family: Lydia struggles with friends who think she should be flattered by the attention, a well-meaning mom who doesn't see the problem, and a creepy step-parent figure.A Must-Read for Social Emotional Learning: Tackles tough but important topics like sexual harassment, gaslighting, and discovering self-worth in a way that is accessible and deeply resonant for middle grade readers.

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