Gary Chapman Quotes

“What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.”

“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.”

“We are influenced by our personality but not controlled by it.”

“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.”

“Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.”

“Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.”

“Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement.”

“The person who is “in-love” has the illusion that his beloved is perfect.”

“People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.”

“The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.”

“I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.”

“Real love” - “This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.”

“For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.”

“The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history.”

“Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love.”

“But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

“Trust is vital for change leadership. Without trust there is no “travel.” When trust is lost, the journey is over.”