John Gray Quotes

“Learning from mistakes helps prevent the repetition of negative patterns.”

“As a man matures he also learns that he may be giving up himself, but his major change is becoming more aware of how he can succeed in giving. Likewise, as a woman matures she also learns new strategies for giving, but her major change tends to be learning to set limits in order to receive what she wants.”

“Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.”

“Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.”

“When a woman’s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love.”

“Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”

“Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.”

“If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win.”

“If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.”

“When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.”

“It is not enough to merely be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well.”

“I would love you all the day, every night we would kiss and play, if with me you’d fondly stray, over the hills and far away.”

″ When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.”

“Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation.”

“After learning , please be realistic. Give yourself a permission to keep making mistakes. We must also give ourselves the gift of understanding that we can’t remember everything we learned at once.”

“When she says ‘I feel like you are not even here,’ he says ‘What do you mean I’m not here? Of course I am here. Don’t you see my body?’ ”

“When the student is ready the teacher appears. When the question is asked then the answer is heard. When we are truly ready to receive then what we need will become available.”

“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”

“A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.”

“It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.”

“Life is filled with rhythms-day and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and fall, cloudy and clear. Likewise in a relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles.”