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Melody Beattie Quotes

45 of the best book quotes from Melody Beattie
  1. #1
    “Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.”
  2. #2
    “Today, I will accept my circumstances even if I lack direction and insight. I will remember to do things that make myself and others feel good during those times. I will trust that clarity will come of its own accord.”
  3. #3
    “Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.”
  4. #4
    “I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.”
  5. #5
    “...the plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us.”
  6. #6
    “Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.”
  7. #7
    “Today, I will let things happen without worrying about the significance of each event. I will trust that this will bring about my growth faster than running around with a microscope. I will trust my lessons to reveal themselves in their own time.”
  8. #8
    “What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed?
    What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life?
    What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career?
    Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down - as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go.”
  9. #9
    “The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”
  1. #10
    “Say “I don’t know,” and be comfortable with that. We do not have to try to force wisdom, knowledge, or clarity when there is none. While waiting for direction, we do not have to put our life on hold. Let go of anxiety and enjoy life. Relax. Do something fun. Enjoy the love and beauty in your life. Accomplish small tasks. They may have nothing to do with solving the problem, or finding direction, but this is what we can do in the interim. Clarity will come. The next step will present itself. Indecision, inactivity, and lack of direction will not last forever.”
  2. #11
    “Beliefs create reality”
  3. #12
    “Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We’ll set a limit when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.”
  4. #13
    “There are times when we simply do not know what to do, or where to go, next. Sometimes these periods are brief, sometimes lingering. We can get through these times. We can rely on our program and the disciplines of recovery. We can cope by using our faith, other people, and our resources. Accept uncertainty. We do not always have to know what to do or where to go next. We do not always have clear direction. Refusing to accept the inaction and limbo makes things worse. It is okay to temporarily be without direction.”
  5. #14
    “I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what’s happening now instead of what’s going to happen tomorrow.”
  6. #15
    “If we weren’t trying to control whether a person liked us or his or her reaction to us, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control the course of a relationship, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control another person’s behavior, how would we think, feel, speak, and behave differently than we do now? What haven’t we been letting ourselves do while hoping that self-denial would influence a particular situation or person? Are there some things we’ve been doing that we’d stop? How would we treat ourselves differently? Would we let ourselves enjoy life more and feel better right now? Would we stop feeling so bad? Would we treat ourselves better? If we weren’t trying to control, what would we do differently? Make a list, then do it.”
  7. #16
    “We do not lead others into the light by stepping into the darkness with them.”
  8. #17
    “Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We’re not really aware we’re doing it until we’re done doing it. Forcing ourselves—or anyone else—to face the truth usually doesn’t help. We won’t face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won’t let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.”
  9. #18
    “Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.”

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  1. #19
    “Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s self-esteem.”
  2. #20
    “Recovery is not about being right; it’s about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are.”
  3. #21
    Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
  4. #22
    Saying “If you loved me you wouldn’t drink” to an alcoholic makes as much sense as saying “If you loved me, you wouldn’t cough” to someone who has pneumonia.
  5. #23
    The pain that comes from loving someone who’s in trouble can be profound.
  6. #24
    Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn’t help. It doesn’t solve problems, it doesn’t help other people, and it doesn’t help us. It is wasted energy.
  7. #25
    We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.
  8. #26
    We take things to heart that we have no business taking to heart.
  9. #27
    We don’t have to take things so personally.
  1. #28
    Feel any feelings that go with rejection; talk about your thoughts; but don’t forfeit your self-esteem to another’s disapproval or rejection of who you are or what you have done.
  2. #29
    Pneumonia victims will cough until they get appropriate treatment for their illness. Alcoholics will drink until they get the same. When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves.
  3. #30
    Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.
  4. #31
    Don’t reject yourself, and don’t give so much power to other people’s rejection of you. It isn’t necessary.
  5. #32
    Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label “codependent.” They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn’t help. They have said yes when they meant no. They have tried to make other people see things their way. They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people’s feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves. They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed. They have wanted to get even and punish others. They have felt so angry they wanted to kill. They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn’t have any. They have worn sackcloth because they didn’t believe they deserved silk.
  6. #33
    The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more.
  7. #34
    I know when to say no and when to say yes.
  8. #35
    I take responsibility for my choices.
  9. #36
    We were, at some time, truly helpless to protect ourselves or solve our problems.

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  1. #37
    We don’t have to take other people’s behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.
  2. #38
    We don’t have to be embarrassed if someone we love chooses to behave inappropriately.
  3. #39
    Each person is responsible for his or her behavior.
  4. #40
    The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?
  5. #41
    Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.
  6. #42
    Codependents make great employees. They don’t complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly—at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.
  7. #43
    I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.
  8. #44
    Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.
  9. #45
    If you have done something inappropriate or you need to solve a problem or change a behavior, then take appropriate steps to take care of yourself. But don’t reject yourself, and don’t give so much power to other people’s rejection of you. It isn’t necessary
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