self-worth Quotes

We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.

Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label “codependent.” They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn’t help. They have said yes when they meant no. They have tried to make other people see things their way. They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people’s feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves. They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed. They have wanted to get even and punish others. They have felt so angry they wanted to kill. They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn’t have any. They have worn sackcloth because they didn’t believe they deserved silk.

The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more.

We don’t have to take other people’s behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.

“But Ah ain’t goin’ outa here and Ah ain’t gointuh hush. Naw, you gointuh listen tuh me one time befo’ you die. Have yo’ way all yo’ life, trample and mash down and then die ruther than tuh let yo’self heah ‘bout it. Listen, Jody, you ain’t de Jody ah run off down de road wid. You’se whut’s left after he died. Ah run off tuh keep house wid you in uh wonderful way. But you wasn’t satisfied wid me de way Ah was. Naw! Mah own mind had tuh be squeezed and crowded out tuh make room for yours in me. ”

“No one should flicker out or have any doubt that it matters that they are here.”

“The true me. What does that even mean? It sounds like one of those faux philosophical lines you’d hear in a black-and-white cologne commercial.”

“But see, the thing is, when I looked up . . . Connor was there. That’s the gift that he gave me. To show me that I wasn’t alone. To show me that I matter. That everybody does.”

“Also, I realized that avoiding people didn’t actually ease any of my anxieties. Out there in the woods, I still had to live with myself.”

“Even if you’ve always been that Barely-in-the-background kind of guy You still matter.”

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

“She felt as though she belonged inside the aloneness. “I’ve never felt at home with myself.”

“This self-respect and sense of self-worth, the innermost armament of the soul, lies at the heart of humanness.”

“If you believe that what you’re doing will have positive results, it will - even if it’s not immediately obvious. When you hold yourself to the same standard in your work that you do as a friend, girlfriend, student, or otherwise, it pays off.”

“A man can get something from war that is impossible to acquire anyplace else.”

″‘The new one is the most beautiful of all; he is so young and pretty.’ And the old swans bowed their heads before him.”

“If I, and this book, have anything to prove, it’s that when you believe in yourself, other people will believe in you, too.”

“But what did he see in the clear stream below? His own image; no longer a dark, gray bird, ugly and disagreeable to look at, but a graceful and beautiful swan.”

“Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We’re not really aware we’re doing it until we’re done doing it. Forcing ourselves—or anyone else—to face the truth usually doesn’t help. We won’t face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won’t let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.”

“Helda,” Katsa said, “how much time do you suppose I spend wondering which of the gentlemen finds me beautiful?” “Not enough.”

“I can’t change where I come from or what I’ve been through, so why should I be ashamed of what makes me, me?”

“Each of us is more than the worst thing we’ve ever done.”

“Ask once, believe you have received, and all you have to do to receive is feel good.”

“You become what you think about most.. But you also attract what you think about most.”

“I am. I think. I will.”

“A little people, but of great worth are the Shire-folk.”

“Let us trust ourselves completely to make the choices we must make.”

“the real mission you have in life is to make yourself happy, and in order to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, the way you victimize yourself”

“when the need is in the mind, you cannot satisfy the need”

“If you take your happiness and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness.”

“One of the greatest days of my life was when I came to understand that other people’s approval and my happiness were not related.”

“People are ruined by challenged economic lives. But they are ruined by wealth as well because they lose their pride and they lose their sense of self-worth. It’s difficult at both ends of the spectrum.”

“I know the NAME of her condition, Doctor . . . But a person is so much more than the name of a diagnosis on a chart!”

“Sometimes people never even ask my name, like it’s not important or something. It is. My name is Melody.”

“That is just what is wrong with the colored woman in this world … Don’t understand about building their men up and making ‘em feel like they somebody. Like they can do something.”

“Child, when do you think is the time to love somebody the most? When they done good and made things easy for everybody? Well then, you ain’t through learning – because that ain’t the time at all. It’s when he’s at his lowest and can’t believe in hisself ‘cause the world done whipped him so! When you starts measuring somebody, measure him right, child, measure him right. Make sure you done taken into account what hills and valleys he come through before he got to wherever he is.”

“You are so much more valuable to everyone around you and to the world if you begin every day knowing exactly who you are and try to be the best, brightest version of yourself.”

″ When you put your needs last, you’re like a plant without water that’s worried about providing enough shade for others. But if that plant doesn’t have enough water to grow, it will shrivel up and die providing no shade or comfort for others anyway.

“If being loved is your goal, you will fail to achieve it. The only way to be assured of being loved is to be a person worthy of love, and you cannot be a person worthy of love when your primary goal in life is to passively be loved.”

“There is nothing more beautiful than a confident women who knows what she wants. There is nothing like a woman driven by passion, selfish in that she takes good care of herself, and believes she is worth it.”

“Expectation wasn’t just about what people expected of you. It was about what you expected of yourself.”

“Learn to trust your own brilliance, go with your gut, and believe that you have something uniquely amazing to deliver to this world — because you do.”

“for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

“You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”

“You can measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes or failures.”

“A woman’s value is not validated by her ability to attract and or keep a man”

“Mother was Father’s equal,” I say coolly. “He didn’t expect her to walk behind him like some pining imbecile.”

“The final product of our training must be neither a psychologist nor a brickmason, but a man.”

“Every time we choose action over ease we develop an increasing level of self-worth, self-respect, and self-confidence.”

“Sorry, Hannah. For someone with your brains, it will be a waste of time. You’ve just got to squeeze what you can out of it and wait for college. Then you can show the world how awesome you are.”

“Everyone has doubts and insecurities? about their body, their self-worth, their sexuality. If your seduction appeals exclusively to the physical, you will stir up these doubts and make your targets self-conscious.”

“Those events that once made me feel ashamed and disgraced now allow me to share with others how to become a useful member of the human race.”

“This is your worth, who you really are, you degree that can go with you wherever you go, that you bring with you the moment you come into a room, that can’t be manipulated or shaken. Without that sense of self, no amount of paper, no pedigree, and no credentials can make you legit. No matter what, you have to feel legit inside first.”

“They measure their esteem of each other by what each has, and not by what each is.”

“You are now responsible for your own sins, but also for your own goodness. Remember what the Talmud teaches: Life is but a river. It has no beginning, no middle, no end. All we are, all we are worth, is what we do while we float upon it—how we treat our fellow man. Remember this, and a good man you will be.”

“His pride,” said Miss Lucas, “does not offend me so much as pride often does, because there is an excuse for it. One cannot wonder that so very fine a young man, with family, fortune, everything in his favour, should think highly of himself. If I may so express it, he has a right to be proud.”

“Owl,” said Pooh, “I have thought of something.” “Astute and Helpful Bear,” said Owl. Pooh looked proud at being called a stout and helpful bear, and said modestly that he just happened to think of it.

“It’s nice to be clever at something, isn’t it?”

“Good men ever interpret themselves too meanly,” said the physician.

“Why in the world should you spend your money, worry your family, and turn the house upside down for a parcel of girls who don’t care a sixpence for you? I thought you had too much pride and sense to truckle to any mortal woman just because she wears French boots and rides in a coupe,” said Jo.

My life belongs to my cash.

“But,” said Jurgis, “how could I ever be of any use to you—in politics?”

“Yes, there is something in me hateful, repulsive,” thought Levin, as he came away from the Shtcherbatskys’, and walked in the direction of his brother’s lodgings. “And I don’t get on with other people. Pride, they say. No, I have no pride. If I had any pride, I should not have put myself in such a position.” And he pictured to himself Vronsky, happy, good-natured, clever, and self-possessed, certainly never placed in the awful position in which he had been that evening. “Yes, she was bound to choose him. So it had to be, and I cannot complain of anyone or anything. I am myself to blame. What right had I to imagine she would care to join her life to mine? Who am I and what am I? A nobody, not wanted by anyone, nor of use to anybody.”

“but for so mean a person as myself a dry bone is a good feast. Who are we, the Gidur-log [the jackal people], to pick and choose?”

Is Bagheera, said the Black Panther, and his jaws shut with a snap, for he did not believe in being humble.

I am not worthy to love you, but to do homage to you is the duty of every man who is not a perfect beast!

“I would not marry him if I were not convinced that he esteems me and thinks highly of me.”

“To my thinking, you, with all your virtues, are not worth the little finger of that unfortunate girl at whom you throw stones.”

“that he was in no way their inferior, and perhaps very much their superior,”